Reasons to Remember Death

It might be useful to dwell on the prospect of death more than we are inclined to.

We’re scared to fail, scared to be alone with our own feelings, scared to eject certain people from our lives, scared to tell our partners who we really are, scared to take our dreams seriously.

From fear, we delay the lives we know we should be leading. A dark but useful solution to this delay – aligning our thoughts to something radically larger and scarier then our doubts and hesitations…the thought of death.

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How to Help Those We Love

The impulse to help floats logically free of any actual ability to do so. Two people can long to be supportive and generous to one another and yet lack all the skills to deliver on their good intentions.

We cause ourselves trouble because we are too slow to recognize an odd, largely unmentioned phenomenon: how varied and particular our notions of help can be.

We take our own preferred style of being soothed as the natural starting point for how to soothe others – but when we are wrong, and our partner’s original distress is compounded by their sense of having been ignored or insulted, we take them to be ungrateful and cruel and vow never to attempt to be kind again.

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Why It Is So Hard to Live in the Present

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What is it that makes the present, especially the nicer moments of the present, so difficult to experience properly? And why, conversely, can so many events feel easier to enjoy, appreciate and perceive, when they are firmly over?

One benefit of the past is that it is a dramatically foreshortened edited version of the present.

Even the best days of our lives contain a range of dull and uncomfortable moments. But in memory, we lock on to the most consequential moments; and therefore construct sequences that feel a great deal more meaningful and interesting than the settings that generated them.

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The Sanity of ‘Madness’

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Life requires us to be pretty sane pretty much all the time. We have to be responsible, polite, productive, thoughtful, patient, logical, reliable and successful.

These obligations crept up on us as we were growing up – now our constant reality

No one can keep going like this over a whole lifetime

Because of this we may be drinking too much, waking up in the middle of the night, addicted to the internet, calming ourselves with sedatives, developing twitches and ailments.

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What is Literature for?

Why should we spend our time reading novels or poems when out there big things are going on?

Some of the ways literature benefits us:

1. It saves us time – because it gives us access to a range of emotions and events that would take years, decades, millennia, to try to explore directly.

It is the greatest reality simulator – a machine that puts you through infinitely more situations then you could ever directly witness

Lets you see what its like to get divorces, kill someone, quit your job or make a mistake while leading your country

It lets you access your life in relation to others

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